Guys make all sorts of excuses these days about marriage, when truly they actually want to cause harm. As a lady you should be smart to read between the lines.
But it all lies in your hands to act and take the needed decision. It is not about dragging the horse to the water, it’s whether the horse really wants to drink.
Read these signs carefully and make them your best friend. These sure signs will help you detect if your relationship will end in marriage.
1) You can picture yourselves standing together at the altar.
A good friend of mine had been dating a guy for about a year-and-a-half when she confessed to me that when she envisioned her wedding day, she couldn’t imagine her current boyfriend there. That was telling. If you can’t get your mind to a ceremony with your man, there’s no way you’ll get your body there. (They broke up, and about two years later, she’s engaged to someone else with whom she was easily able to picture herself exchanging vows!)
2) You’re vulnerable with each other.
Nelson says that the couples who stay together are the ones who can let loose with one another — doing things like wearing no makeup, without pretense. “Your partner sees you at your worst and best, and loves you unconditionally, flaws and all,” she says. “You take good care of one another and look out for your partner’s well-being with thoughtfulness, kindness, and compassion. It’s one the main qualities that let people know this person is the right one for them.”
3) You’re each considered a part of the other’s family.
Your boyfriend’s whole family is going on vacation. If you’re heading toward marriage, it wouldn’t be so crazy if they invited you to join (though if you’re not invited, it doesn’t mean you’re not going to marry your guy–I wasn’t included in Paul’s giant family cruise…seven years into dating him). Or if you’re all going out for your mom’s birthday, there’s no question (in your parents’ mind, yours, or your boyfriend’s) that he’s coming along.
4) You know your partner’s not perfect, but think he or she is perfect for you.
“Having realistic expectations is very important to be able to get through that last mile and get engaged,” says Salkin. Rather than wonder if there is someone better, people who are headed for marriage focus on all the ways their partner is right for them. “There will always be someone more attractive, successful, and so on,” she shares. “But what’s important is to realize that you are not perfect and this other person may not be either — but together, you are perfect for each other.”
5) Your partner isn’t afraid to challenge you.
Constantly butting heads could mean you’re headed for a breakup. But, if your partner is willing to kindly voice his or her views in order to challenge you to change yours, psychotherapist and relationship expert Rhonda Richards-Smith says you could be headed for marriage. “If your partner is comfortable enough with you to lovingly call you out privately when they feel you are wrong,” says Richards-Smith, “chances are you are in the right relationship.”
6) You make life-decisions together.
Until you tie the knot, you’re free to make your own decisions. But couples who include one another in the big ones are almost surely headed for marriage, Nelson says. “These partners plan for the future and think about making life decisions with the unit in mind,” she says. “They may devise a plan to pay down student loans and financial debt together, purchase a car in each other’s name, or buy a house together. They may have children or begin planning for that next phase in life. You know this relationship is forever because the couple is deeply committed in creating a future of which they can both be proud.”
8) You speak in “when”s, not “if”s.
If your guy starts sentences with, “When we get married,” he’s made up his mind: He wants you to be his wife. You may not get engaged the next day, or even the next year, but if your relationship stays on its current trajectory after a statement like that, your marriage will have that man in it.